Have you found someone you really like? Do you think it could be them?
This is amazing!
But wait, are you afraid of sticking things?
If you have many relationships behind you, you may worry that you are the reason they didn’t work out.
So how can you tell?
Well, it turns out that there are certain personality traits that can make or break a relationship.
Read on to find out what they are!
Look, the truth is, without honesty, your relationship has no chance.
That’s because honesty is the foundation of any happy and healthy relationship.
If you are a loyal person, tell the truth and are sincere in everything you do, then you are off to a good start.
However, if you like to lie to your partner, if you are deceitful or manipulative to get your way, then I’m afraid you will have to change your ways or accept that this could be another in a long line of things failed relationships
No one wants to be with someone they can’t trust and no one wants to feel like they’re being played.
2) Good communication skills
Having good communication skills means that you are able to express yourself clearly so that there is no doubt in your partner’s mind about what you are trying to say. It’s a good idea to use “I” statements to convey what you want, need, and feel.
It also means getting your message across without getting angry and without raising your voice.
But good communication is not only talking, but also listening.
You see, it’s important to actively listen to what your partner is saying. This means paying attention, asking questions and responding appropriately. It’s also important to keep an open mind and avoid judgment.
Good communication is often what makes a relationship work because it allows both partners to express their needs, opinions and concerns.
Effective communication is crucial to avoid misunderstandings, resolve conflicts and build trust.
Without good communication, you’re looking at misunderstandings, resentments, frustrations, and conflicts. More often than not, this will result in an emotional disconnect and ultimately a breakdown in the relationship.
So, are you satisfied with your communication skills or could they use some brushing up?
3) Respectful behavior
A happy and successful relationship is a union of equals.
And equals treat each other with respect.
So what exactly does this mean? It means…
Validate your partner’s feelings Be supportive Be considerate Practice healthy conflict resolution, and that means talking about problems as soon as they arise Show them how much you appreciate them. Recognize everything they do for you and thank you Make commitments Be able to admit when you’re wrong and apologize. Giving your partner space when they need it and respecting their boundaries
If the above points sound like you, you have nothing to worry about. However, if the opposite is true and…
You ignore your partner’s feelings You don’t get discouraged and like to argue and stay mad for a long time afterwards instead of finding a solution and recovering. Taking your partner for granted You never say thank you, instead you complain about how you could do better. Never compromise and have things your way You can’t admit you were wrong and you’d rather die than say sorry. You are suffocating and instead of giving your partner space, you insist on being with them 24 hours a day.
Well, you really need to start working on your behavior and show your partner the respect they deserve. If you don’t, your disrespect will break your relationship, you can be sure of that.
4) Self-awareness and emotional stability
Now, I’m not saying that someone who has problems can’t find happiness. But I’d be lying if I didn’t say that emotional stability and general self-awareness don’t contribute to a successful relationship.
Someone who is self-aware is in tune with their emotions. They know themselves and are aware of how they might feel and react in any given situation.
And you know what? This knowledge helps them control their emotions and behavior.
However, someone who lacks self-awareness doesn’t understand their emotions or where they come from, so they don’t know how to manage them. This can be very difficult for your romantic partner to deal with on a daily basis.
In other words, just think about feeling all these emotions and not knowing what to do with them: doubts, jealousy, anger, sadness, pain… eventually all these emotions will have to come out, and if you are not aware of yourself. and lack of emotional stability, your partner is likely to end up being the target of your emotional outburst.
In my experience, it takes someone very strong and dedicated to stay…
The bottom line is that if you are not fully aware of yourself and have trouble dealing with your emotions, you should consider working on yourself. I recommend practicing self-reflection, identifying your triggers, practicing mindfulness meditation, and developing coping strategies.
5) Sense of humor
If life seems gleefully rotten
There is something you forgot
And that is laughing and smiling, dancing and singing
When you feel down in the dumps
Don’t be silly
He just purses his lips and hisses, that’s the problem
Always look on the positive side of life
– Monty Python
Look at it this way: If you were thinking about spending the rest of your life with someone, wouldn’t you want it to be someone you can laugh with?
For many people, dating someone without a sense of humor could be a real deal breaker.
So, if you find it hard to laugh and take life too seriously, I suggest loosening up a bit and taking yourself less seriously.
Also, if you tend to focus on all the negative aspects of your life and ignore all the positives, unless you find someone who is as pessimistic as you, you will have a hard time staying in a relationship.
My advice? Cheer up and learn to see the funny side of life.
Another important personality trait that could make or break your relationship is patience.
And “Why this?” you may very well ask yourself.
Because sharing your life with another human being can be challenging at times.
No matter how much you have in common and how well you get along, there are things that will irritate you about your partner at times and test your patience.
Remember that no one is perfect, and that includes you.
Try not to react impulsively or being too hard on your partner. Understand that you are both learning as you go.
You may not always agree and everyone has their own way of dealing with certain things, and that’s okay.
When you feel like you’re about to break down or lose your cool, try to think of all the things about your partner that you love and appreciate.
Trust me, patience is a virtue and without it, I’m not sure your relationship has a chance.
When you’re in a relationship with someone, it’s pretty important to be able to depend on them.
Makes sense if you ask me.
Trusted people always keep their promises, keep their commitments and are there for you when you need them.
So does that sound like you?
Untrustworthy people make promises as often as they say “hello” and that means they don’t always keep them. They don’t take their commitments seriously and have a tendency to back out at the last minute. Should I continue?
And despite what they might be telling themselves, being unreliable isn’t cute and quirky, it’s frustrating and disappointing.
Simply put, if you want to know if you have what it takes to make this relationship work, ask yourself, “Can my partner depend on me?”
8) Emotional vulnerability
Earlier I mentioned being self-aware and emotionally stable.
Well, emotional vulnerability is an equally important factor when it comes to making or breaking a relationship.
Let me explain:
When someone is emotionally vulnerable, it means that they are able to open up to the other person and share their innermost thoughts and feelings. It means letting your guard down and risking getting hurt.
This is essential when it comes to deepening a relationship. It means you trust the other person enough to show them your true self.
The alternative is to be emotionally unavailable.
And when someone is emotionally unavailable, it means they are not ready to open up to another person. They are afraid of getting hurt and rejected and usually end up pushing them away. Basically, they are not ready for a relationship.
The bottom line is that if you want to have a real, committed relationship with someone you love, you have to learn to let your guard down and risk getting hurt.
It might surprise you, but a person’s independence is actually a pretty big factor in making or breaking a relationship.
Because it gives you the freedom to pursue your interests, spend time with your friends, work on your goals and make your own decisions. Because it gives you the space to grow and develop as a person. Because it means you recognize that you and your partner are two individuals with different needs and desires. And perhaps most importantly, because it is so avoid codependency which can be really damaging to a relationship. It is when two people become too dependent on each other and lose their sense of self.
Finally, I want to point out how important it is to be open minded in a relationship.
It’s about how you deal with your differences and how you respond to challenges in your relationship.
You see, when you are open-minded, it means that you are accepting, empathetic and understanding with your partner.
And of course, this is good for your relationship.
It also means having an open and curious attitude towards life. It means that you are open to new experiences and going on adventures with your partner. Basically, it means he’s fun to be around. It sounds good for me!
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