You met a nice guy and he asked you out. You enter this date and a potential relationship full of expectations. Dating tips will make you question whether or not he’ll pay the bill, open the door for you, take an interest in your life, etc.
His ability to meet those expectations is the make or break for him, so you’re watching him closely.
But when it comes to what men want, did you know that they also have expectations of you?
They’re not always so obvious, but through my dating journey and client feedback, I’ve learned that there are six things guys want you to do, but won’t tell you when you first start dating.
Here are 6 unattractive things men want you to do when you first start dating:
1. Call or text first sometimes
Men know they should be chasing you, but in a world full of so many options, it’s nice when you show genuine interest in them. Sending a simple text asking how your day was to get to the top of your list.
2. Ask questions
This seems simple. It’s called conversation! You wouldn’t believe how many guys complain to me about how little interest women have during their dates. The art of conversation is huge and will keep you in the game much longer.
3. Take an interest in the things they love
Whether it’s a sports team, an activity, or their new favorite band, you should take an interest in their interests. Let him ramble on about his quarterback, even if you don’t love that team (or the sport at all).
He just wants you to listen to him sometimes, just like he needs to hear some story about your friend’s cousin’s daughter.
4. Plan a date
There is a lot of pressure on men to plan interesting, fun and creative dates. It’s nice of you to take it on sometimes and introduce her to your favorite things or try something completely new together.
5. Send a photo (or two)
You know how I feel when men ask for photos without any real context. I’m not a fan! But I’m a fan of sending unsolicited pictures, and so are men. Dressed up for a girls night out? Send it to him. He will appreciate it more than what he asked for.
6. Don’t use your phone at the table
This request is another very obvious request that we as a culture keep failing. When you first start dating someone, you want their undivided attention. Your Instagram feed can wait, ladies. Leave your cell phone in your purse and only take it out when you go to the bathroom.
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Ravid Yosef is a dating and relationship coach. She is an established advice columnist, certified NLP practitioner and award-winning marketer.
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