Approach a woman like an introverted man
Overcoming approach anxiety can be difficult without dating advice specifically aimed at you, an introvert!
If you want to get close to women to feel comfortable, you are in the right place.
For introverts meeting women, common struggles range from reading their body language and eye contact to finding good conversation starters and finally getting their phone number.
That’s why we’re sharing 4 detailed tips that will help you approach a girl and feel good about it!
The #1 trait you need to approach and attract women
We’ve helped hundreds of introverted men like you learn how to approach women, develop a meaningful connection, overcome relationship challenges, and ultimately fall in love!
They all have one thing in common:
When you know exactly who you are, what you’re looking for, and why…that’s when you’ll really begin to approach women with purpose and confidence.
First of all, you need to build up your confidence before you are ready to talk to a girl. (That’s what this free 22-page e-book helps you with!
The other half of the equation is that your confidence will grow naturally as you pursue your goals.
If your goal is to improve your dating life by striking up a conversation once a week with an intriguing woman, regardless of the results of that conversation, your trust will grow at the same rate as your following.
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Now, let’s dive in!
What to do before approaching women
Mindset is everything! Before you start approaching women, remember that it’s a skill. Any skill takes time as you build confidence in what you are doing. Don’t worry too much as you practice, reflect, modify and keep improving!
Once your mind is in the right place, notice who you are naturally attracted to as you enter a room. There is a reason why his presence seems magnetic to you. Is it his smile? The way they held the door of the big family behind them?
Hint: knowing WHY you were attracted becomes very important in our third tip, what to say!
When to approach an attractive girl and what to do next
Before you approach women, make sure you’ve gauged whether or not they are to want that you come and talk to them.
You can do this by deliberately getting in their line of sight and making flirtatious eye contact, if possible. Depending on the environment, this can be as simple as a brief glance with a sincere smile before looking away!
If she rejects you, tries to avoid you, or generally seems uncomfortable, this is not a woman you should approach. Honor their “no” even if it’s not verbal.
On the other hand, if he looks back at you and smiles or laughs a little, it’s a warm invitation to introduce yourself!
Try not to wait for the “perfect moment”. It won’t come unless you believe it!
When you choose your moment, approach it boldly, not aggressively. If you never try you’ll never know!
What to say when approaching women
Learn how to talk to a girl online (like where dating apps) is completely different from a face-to-face conversation (in a coffee shop, for example).
Don’t panic! If you can’t think of what to say, use our 10-word formula:
“I noticed you and had to come say ‘hello’.”
The next best thing to starting a conversation is to say exactly what about her made you want to come chat. When you point out something you notice or admire about her, it’s an easy way to create a friendly connection and diffuse any tension. Everyone loves a friendly add-on!
From there, instead of planning too many things to say, keep a curious mindset. You can even think of it as collecting data to come back to in a future conversation!
Remember, the more you cultivate a warm and authentic interaction, the more comfortable it will be for others to be themselves. If you want to connect as quickly as possible, the best way to do it is to bring all of your humanity to the table!
How to get her number and end the conversation gracefully
First, assess how your conversation is going.
Does she seem excited or intrigued to talk to you? Or does he seem to want the conversation to end as quickly as possible?
If his body language is open to you, he’s smiling a lot, and he’s making good eye contact instead of looking away, these are great signs that your connection is progressing well.
If she seems uncomfortable, distracted, or cold, it’s okay to simply thank her for chatting, wish her a good day, and politely exit the conversation.
Otherwise, go ahead and ask for their phone number!
An easy way to do this is to say…
“Unfortunately I have to hit the road, but I really enjoyed meeting you today! Could I get your number real quick and get in touch to set up a time for a drink?”
He may say yes and immediately pick up the phone. Maybe she’ll say she has a boyfriend. He might say he lives in a different city and is just visiting for work.
The truth is, you can’t control their response or what happens next! Everything you can do is the best to form and foster a connection.
If it doesn’t work, don’t worry. Maintain a strong sense of confidence no matter what. (Hint: Download our electronic book to help with this, mentioned above!)
Conclusion on approaching women
After reading this post, you have learned to…
Develop a safe mindset before approaching a woman,
Evaluate the signs that you should walk towards her,
Communicate with clarity, joy and optimism, and
Get their phone number before you leave.
Your next steps
Here’s what you need to do next to ensure your leadership and dating skills continue to improve:
The next step after getting her phone number is to send her a text message! For help with this, see this article: Texting a Girl for the First Time: What to Say and When?
Download our free eBook, “Why PUA Doesn’t Work for Introverts and What Does” to build those dating skills on a foundation of trust!
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When you are able to confidently bring out your unique and genuine personality, you will easily create wonderful and lasting connections with others.
Start developing magnetic confidence of your own today.
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