Question: I am a 29-year-old single man. I still haven’t found my true love. However, I have been in relationships with many girls. But all my relationships have ended in breakup. To be honest, I’ve been very unlucky when it comes to love. My partner cheated on me just when I thought I was in love. It has happened not once, but many times, when I was cheated on in my relationship. This is also one of the reasons why I have lost faith in true love.
That’s why I don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone. I know this situation will only get worse with time. However, my parents have also started looking for a girlfriend for me. But looking at my past experiences, I don’t know if I can ever trust anyone. Is there really true love in this world? I don’t understand what to do? Should I get married or take a break? (All images are indicative, we protect the identity of users in the stories they share)
Jankhana Joshi, a Mumbai-based counseling psychologist and practitioner of dance movement therapy, says repeated betrayals in romantic relationships lead to hatred of the word love. In this situation, it is very common to become disillusioned with the relationship. There are many reasons behind the situation you are in today.
In this situation, you must consider your thoughts first. That’s because you’ve been cheated on in the relationship every time. In this situation, it is very difficult for you to expect a healthy marital relationship.
I have to focus on myself
When you were cheated on in love for the first time, only then should you have started treatment. By treatment, I mean work here. This is because it helps you build trust in relationships. We try to ease our pain with the belief that one day it will go away on its own, but they say wounds don’t heal quickly. It’s exactly the same with you.
let the emotions settle
Let your feelings settle before entering into a new relationship. This is because if you take some time before jumping into a new relationship, you will be able to enter a new relationship with a better perspective. I ask you to do this because every time we start a new relationship in an unhealthy way, couples compromise their needs. But when we accept the differences between us and our partner, the relationship doesn’t feel like a compromise.
After listening to all your talk, I just want to tell you not to let your past affect your love life. Apart from that, the most important thing is that we must learn to love ourselves. If we don’t do this, it will be difficult to give love to others. So rebuild your ability to give and receive love. This will not only strengthen your relationship, but also reduce the loneliness you feel inside.
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