Judging by the title, I know what you’re thinking, who is this 23-year-old to give advice on such a complex subject? Therefore, I can only say that I am one of you, and you may also be wondering how to make intimate moments more unforgettable and special. Here are some tips and tricks on how to achieve this.
Know yourself deeply
I think the pun “know yourself deeply so you can understand others” has been around for centuries. However, it couldn’t be more accurate. The first thing that will make your intimate time with your partner more valuable is to have a strong sense of the idea of WHO YOU ARE. Now, I’m not saying that you have to have an exact idea of your life purpose. However, having a rough idea of what you value, what activates you, what brings you joy and what doesn’t. This will allow you to stand still if someone new comes and goes, as you are already a complete human being on your own. Non-attachment to external things or to another person can really create obstacles and interfere with our peace. I would sum this up by saying that knowing that you will be okay no matter who comes and goes, you always have good relationships with yourself and those around you at a certain time in your life.
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What do you look for in others?
I recently read an article where they were encouraged to list about six things they look for in a partner. Make a list of some qualities that you absolutely and unconditionally need in a partner. Also, it’s a good idea to make a list of things you’re willing to tolerate if this person doesn’t look like those things. We all come with flaws, so we should be open minded to grow and let the other person grow as well. Basically, the bar doesn’t have to be on the ground when I’m looking for a partner, but also, it’s worth asking yourself, can I bring what I need?
Communication is necessary
When starting a new relationship, I can’t stress enough how crucial it is to communicate your needs and expectations. I often feel that lack of communication creates so many misunderstandings that could have been avoided if we simply spoke our minds. By that I mean talking about weird things, uncomfortable taboo subjects, what you like and don’t like in bed. This will possibly make the connection even stronger and intimate time more energetically stimulating after you get there later, when you both feel ready. Basically, what do you want this beautiful company to be?
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How do you feel?
One crucial thing that I think is often overlooked is our feelings. Notice if your body feels safe, loved and nurtured. Are there tensions in the muscles? Do you watch what you say or can you be your true and authentic self? Our beautiful vessels, that is, our bodies, will always let you know if something is wrong. It’s not uncommon to also get sick often when you’re in a relationship that doesn’t feel right. Being with another person should be easy. Of course, you both have to put in the effort to work as partners, and don’t get me wrong, that takes a lot of effort. However, being together, being in the presence of others, should be the easiest, safest and most beautiful state.
I don’t consider myself an expert on this subject, but I do believe that once we stay true to ourselves and allow ourselves to be vulnerable with others, we can definitely make the whole dating experience sensual and much more worthwhile. And who knows, maybe these ways will help us discover new parts of personalities that we have yet to explore.
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