Dear ABBY: My husband and I have been married for nine years. While we were dating, he was kind, considerate and loving. After we got married, he became a chronic whistleblower, something he later confessed he had been hiding while we were dating.
He talks to me like I’m trash and then gets nice when he wants something. He complains about my grown children, my best friend and even if I leave for work a couple of minutes early. He is a miserable person. I can’t do anything to make him happy. I can’t stand this anymore.
It has taken away the things I love: flowers, gardening, pets, books, friends, etc. I’m ready to go, but he has cancer and I’d feel guilty. He’s clear now, but he’ll be back.
I don’t want to stay Life is too short to live like this. He has a great support system with his family. They would take care of him. My health has been affected by him and his terrible attitude. What do I do?
— WORN WIFE
Dear Wife: What you do now is consult a lawyer, pack your bags and leave before it gets worse. Don’t expect your husband to be grateful for ANY of the efforts you’ve made on his behalf over the course of your marriage. During the time you were dating, he hid the fact that he was a verbal abuser from you. Now you know he was a scammer. Don’t feel guilty about protecting yourself and getting your life back.
Contact dear Abby at DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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